by Karen Frazier, Managing Editor
Paranormal Underground Magazine

I’ve made no secret that I am not a fan of drama in any of its forms. Not the drama that is real drama in everyday life – I’m talking about that false drama that people stir up for whatever reason. Mostly to hide from their own internal dialogues, I guess.

I have a confession to make. I used to be a drama queen. Oh yeah – I was the queen diva drama queen. If there was drama and I was in it, I was happy because everything just seemed so. Darn. Important. Drama added color to life. It made me feel intense, alive and there.

Somewhere along the way that dropped away. I can’t tell you if there was a single epiphany that, for me, all of the false drama wasn’t necessary, or if it happened gradually over time. The former drama queen in me hopes it was an epiphany – what Oprah Winfrey calls an “Ah Ha! Moment.”

Probably it was more gradual. I started to truly get to know myself. I started to really allow myself to experience my life, to experience the moment and to experience the world around me. I finally allowed myself to feel what was real, instead of what I was manufacturing as drama. And in the bright light of what was real and what was true, drama all of a sudden seemed so unnecessary to me. Life is, in and of itself, dramatic enough without adding to it.

The differences between drama queen drama and real life drama, however, are vast. False drama is like a high. It sucks you in and you ride the wave until it crashes. Then you are stuck waiting for your next fix. Or at least, that was my experience of it. In real life drama, the feelings are real and within each dramatic situation is a shining gem just waiting there to be discovered. It could be a lesson that you needed to learn about yourself. It could be learning who your true friends are. It could be realizing that you never are, never have been and never will be alone. Or it could just be that by coming through it in a manner consistent with your integrity, you have a stronger sense of self and can look at your face in the mirror and meet your own eyes for a little longer than the last time.

Life has ups and down. It waxes and wanes. This reformed drama queen has learned something quite important. For me, riding even one of the waves of real life holds far more value than a lifetime of made up drama.

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